{"id":5300,"date":"2025-01-17T15:45:00","date_gmt":"2025-01-17T14:45:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/?p=5300"},"modified":"2025-07-06T14:31:55","modified_gmt":"2025-07-06T12:31:55","slug":"my-motherhood","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/my-motherhood","title":{"rendered":"My Motherhood"},"content":{"rendered":"\n


What didn\u2019t I learn in school
but I\u2019m teaching my child?
Emotional regulation.
There\u2019s a meme that says\u00a0
we\u2019re the generation of\u00a0
the \u201cunseen\u201d and \u201cunheard\u201d children.
And now we\u2019re the ones
meant to teach our kids that they matter.
\u2026Seriously?\u00a0

But the truth is – at least, it\u2019s my truth\u00a0\ud83d\ude42
We are the first generation that can do this.\u00a0
We are the first generation with the chance to change.
Our parents\u2019 generation,
they were the post-war generation.\u00a0
Children of people who had lived through the real war.\u00a0
War, and all of its consequences.\u00a0
So for their parents – our grandparents,\u00a0
the most important thing in the world\u00a0was survival.
To put food on the table.
To find a place to stay safe.
No one was thinking about \u201cgentle parenting.\u201d\u00a0
That concept didn\u2019t even exist in their world.
Our parents were the first generation
to be born into freedom.\u00a0
Our flower children.\u00a0
They grew wherever the sun happened to shine.\u00a0
They took what they could.\u00a0
They had to fill themselves up on their own.
And they raised us\u00a0with whatever they had managed to gather along the way.\u00a0
But we \u2013 we are the privileged ones.\u00a0
Privileged by peace.\u00a0
Privileged with the luxury of food and housing.\u00a0
Privileged with time.\u00a0
Time to think,
to compare,\u00a0
to question.

Privileged with access to information.
With access to books and materials about everything and everyone,\u00a0
to courses, certifications, webinars, and schools.\u00a0
Privileged in a world that keeps expanding –\u00a0in science, psychology, technology,\u00a0
and knowledge about other cultures, races, and religions.

We heard the stories from our grandparents,\u00a0
but we also felt their love.\u00a0
We wanted to be everything to our parents,
but we watched them spin in circles,
looping through inherited trauma.\u00a0
That\u2019s heavy.
That hurts.\u00a0
But it also means:\u00a0
we are the ones in our family lines privileged with awareness.
We are the ones who can change so much.\u00a0

So how do I give my child something I never had?\u00a0
That question shook me.
When I first heard it, my son was one year old.\u00a0\u00a0
\u201cYou can\u2019t give your child\u00a0\u00a0
what you don\u2019t have yourself.\u201d\u00a0
Full stop.\u00a0
There\u2019s no way around it.\u00a0
So how do we do it?..\u00a0

Self-awareness is such a beautiful thing
because healing begins\u00a0the very moment
you realize something.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

The better I can see myself
– the better I\u2019ll be able\u00a0
to see my child.\u00a0\u00a0

The better I can hear myself
– the better I\u2019ll be able\u00a0
to hear my child.\u00a0\u00a0

The more deeply I can feel myself
– the more deeply I\u2019ll be able\u00a0
to feel my child.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

I can change so much \u2014 just by starting with myself.\u00a0
I cannot teach my child how to regulate his emotions\u00a0
until I learn how to regulate my own.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

Everything begins with me.
The change in my motherhood\u00a0\u00a0
starts with me.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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