{"id":6261,"date":"2025-09-06T19:39:30","date_gmt":"2025-09-06T17:39:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/?p=6261"},"modified":"2025-09-14T07:59:02","modified_gmt":"2025-09-14T05:59:02","slug":"step-1-see","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/step-1-see","title":{"rendered":"Step 1 – See"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

It\u2019s strange how we had to learn
so much\u00a0useless stuff<\/em>\u00a0that has no meaning in our lives,
and yet nothing about\u00a0ourselves<\/em>.
Emotions.<\/strong>
So often brushed off with a wave of the hand.
Silenced with a look.
Hidden in shame.
You shouldn\u2019t feel that way.<\/em>
That\u2019s not appropriate.<\/em>
What, are you going to cry now?<\/em>
Shamed.
Shouted down.
Shut away.
I have a problem?<\/em>?
Nooo, sounds more like you do.<\/em>
Our oversized reactions are a response
to our\u00a0real<\/em>, long-ignored emotions.
We explode the moment they get touched inside us.
But really, the whole point is just to be okay, right?
He\u2019s okay.
She\u2019s okay.
So I\u2019m okay too.
Just the usual little problems like everyone.

How are you?<\/em>
Good.<\/em>

And then someone presses that red button of ours
\u2026 and\u00a0boooooooooooom<\/strong>
Off we go \ud83d\ude42
Noooooo, it doesn\u2019t bother me at all.<\/em>
BOOM.<\/strong>\u00a0Like a volcano,
out pours anger, fury, and complaints.
Nooooo, I\u2019m not even interested in all of that\u2026<\/strong>
BOOM.<\/strong>
You\u2019re still thinking about it a week later,
but of course, you won\u2019t tell anyone
because\u2026 you\u2019re\u00a0fine<\/em>. \ud83d\ude42
And so, only by admitting it to yourself
can anything begin to change.
That\u2019s the first step.
To<\/strong>\u00a0see<\/strong>.
Not even to\u00a0do<\/em>\u00a0anything with it yet.
Just to look.
At yourself.
How often you get triggered.
How often something pisses you off.
How often \u201cthose thoughts\u201d steal your time
and space to live\u00a0your<\/em>\u00a0life.
So I watched myself.
For a long time.
Just for me.
Noticing when I enter my hamster wheel and start running.
I observed myself so I could start
seeing\u00a0those moments.
Those triggers.
Those switches.
Those red magic buttons of mine.
Not\u00a0someone<\/em>.
Not\u00a0something<\/em>.
I shifted the perspective of responsibility
from someone\/something to\u00a0me<\/em>.
And I asked: Why?
What is this activating in me?
Why? What does it remind me of?
Why??
And most of all:
Why does it matter today?!<\/strong>

Because it\u2019s not really about yesterday.
It\u2019s about today
in which\u00a0yesterday is still playing<\/em>.<\/strong>

And I just wanted to live today, finally, only with today.
That\u2019s why I started with observation.
\u2757\ufe0fAnd meditation helped me deeply in that.
Sitting with myself and the feeling.
Simply sitting with whatever was there.
I always asked for help.
And I always thanked in advance for the Guidance.
Sometimes answers came right in that moment of silence,
and sometimes a few days later, through life.
I watched.
And I learned to observe.<\/strong>
Myself.<\/em>
I don\u2019t know how it will be for you,
because each of us walks their own unique path.
But it\u2019s not enough to talk and ask\u2026
If you want to help yourself,
you have to relearn how to read yourself.
You have to learn how to listen for the answers.
And they\u00a0will<\/em>\u00a0come.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"It\u2019s strange how we had to learnso much\u00a0useless stuff\u00a0that has no meaning in our lives,and yet nothing about\u00a0ourselves.Emotions.So…\n","protected":false},"author":244696633,"featured_media":6259,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_crdt_document":"","advanced_seo_description":"","jetpack_seo_html_title":"","jetpack_seo_noindex":false,"csco_display_header_overlay":false,"csco_disable_site_padding":false,"csco_singular_sidebar":"","csco_page_header_type":"","csco_page_load_nextpost":"","csco_post_video_location":[],"csco_post_video_location_hash":"","csco_post_video_url":"","csco_post_video_bg_start_time":0,"csco_post_video_bg_end_time":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1610,1827],"tags":[1612,1829,1617,1575,1574,1573,1828,1586],"class_list":{"0":"post-6261","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-emotions-signposts","8":"category-own-work","9":"tag-emotions-are-signposts","10":"tag-i-have-one-too","11":"tag-inspiration","12":"tag-personal-development","13":"tag-self-awareness","14":"tag-self-development","15":"tag-step-1-see","16":"tag-the-power-is-in-you","17":"cs-entry","18":"cs-video-wrap"},"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/sandrasinger.blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/IMG_8403.jpeg?fit=3088%2C2316&ssl=1","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/pfugTc-1CZ","jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6261","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/244696633"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=6261"}],"version-history":[{"count":10,"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6261\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":6301,"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6261\/revisions\/6301"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/6259"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=6261"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=6261"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=6261"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}