1 – See.
2 – Stop.
3 – Change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
We so often or almost always demand Let\u2019s first learn to appreciate that effort\u00a0in ourselves.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n I\u2019m sure that once we see the effects, How do we change?<\/strong> How do we do it?<\/strong> And then a very important step: Is it easy?<\/strong>
change from the people around us.
How much time and effort we\u2019d save
if we just started by focusing on ourselves.
That kind of change is hard.
That kind of change,
if it\u2019s not motivated from within,
is almost impossible.
That kind of steady, permanent change
only comes with consistency.
Let\u2019s try changing just one<\/em> thing within ourselves first
and see how hard that can be.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
most of us will change our perspective.
We\u00a0do<\/em>\u00a0have influence\u00a0
on ourselves.
We can shape and sculpt ourselves.
Ourselves.
Just changing our own reactions\u00a0
will change how others react to us
The time and energy invested\u00a0
in yourself is never wasted.
It always supports you.
You.
A natural side effect is that
things that no longer fit
start to fall away.
But instead of wasting energy on fighting,
use it to build yourself.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
I don\u2019t fight
to magically break a habit I\u2019ve built over years.
I replace it with a new one.
I don\u2019t fight the word
I no longer want to use,
wishing it would disappear from my vocabulary.
I replace it with a new word.
I don\u2019t fight the tone in my voice
that rises when I get angry.
I replace it with a warmer one.
I don\u2019t fight to make\u00a0
my husband hug me more often.
Instead,
I go and hug him more often myself.
And I do this work
for as long as it takes.
I\u2019m the one watching over it.
I celebrate my own tiny steps,\u00a0
the micro-steps that are slowly rebuilding me
in the direction I choose.
This process needs\u00a0
patience and consistency to succeed.
It\u2019s about learning how to turn again
exactly when I want to,
not when the wind starts blowing harder.
It\u2019s a small and powerful skill:
learning to steer yourself.
And where does that happen?
Within me.
Who knows about it?
Only me.
Who can make me do it?
Only me.
And after that kind of training,\u00a0
we\u2019ll never again want to expect change from others \ud83d\ude42
Focusing on ourselves is enough.
Because when I change,
my whole world follows.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
1 – Notice.
2 – Stop.
3 – Change – Replace with something new.
<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I change – by replacing.<\/strong>
If I tried to change and instantly drop the old way
– a certain habit, word, or behavior –
it would be so much harder for me.
All the energy I\u2019d spend trying not<\/em> to do it
would be exhausting.
But when I add<\/em>
– the new habit, word or behavior –
it becomes easier.
And then the old ones naturally start to fall away
because they\u2019re no longer so important.
Because I\u2019m already in a different place.
Because I now have new habits
that I chose.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
At first, it\u2019s something you have to learn.
To stay consistent.
Later, it becomes a habit
and your good friend,
one that helps you reach your own goals.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"1 – See.2 – Stop.3 – Change. We so often or almost always demand change from the people around…\n","protected":false},"author":244696633,"featured_media":6315,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"advanced_seo_description":"","jetpack_seo_html_title":"","jetpack_seo_noindex":false,"jetpack_seo_schema_type":"","_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_wpcom_ai_launchpad_first_post":false,"csco_display_header_overlay":false,"csco_disable_site_padding":false,"csco_singular_sidebar":"","csco_page_header_type":"","csco_page_load_nextpost":"","csco_post_video_location":[],"csco_post_video_location_hash":"","csco_post_video_url":"","csco_post_video_bg_start_time":0,"csco_post_video_bg_end_time":0,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[1610,1827],"tags":[1850,1612,1575,1843,1574,1573,1586],"class_list":["post-6341","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-emotions-signposts","category-own-work","tag-change-replace","tag-emotions-are-signposts","tag-personal-development","tag-see-stop-change","tag-self-awareness","tag-self-development","tag-the-power-is-in-you","cs-entry","cs-video-wrap"],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/pfugTc-1Eh","jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/sandrasinger.blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/IMG_8887.jpeg?fit=3050%2C2286&ssl=1","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6341","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/244696633"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=6341"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6341\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":6347,"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6341\/revisions\/6347"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/6315"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=6341"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=6341"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=6341"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}