{"id":6546,"date":"2025-11-09T19:29:11","date_gmt":"2025-11-09T18:29:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/?p=6546"},"modified":"2025-11-09T19:32:09","modified_gmt":"2025-11-09T18:32:09","slug":"healing-our-burning-emotions","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/healing-our-burning-emotions","title":{"rendered":"Healing Our Burning Emotions."},"content":{"rendered":"\n

We long to be understood.\u00a0
We long to be held.\u00a0
We long to be accepted.\u00a0<\/strong>

Why do we want it so much?\u00a0
Because we didn\u2019t get\u00a0enough<\/em>\u00a0of it.\u00a0
When we were little.

We didn\u2019t get enough to live in peace\u00a0
and move on to self-realization.\u00a0
Our pissed-off state shows whether, deep inside,
we’re taking care of ourselves
–\u00a0because that\u2019s the only way we can today, as adults.\u00a0<\/strong>

Are we carrying deep wounds,\u00a0
frozen and buried,\u00a0
that still fester inside us?\u00a0
The primal wound of the mother.\u00a0
The primal wound of the father.\u00a0
Our inner child.\u00a0
This isn\u2019t science fiction.\u00a0
It\u2019s our life – lived in lack.\u00a0
It\u2019s our daily resentment.\u00a0
It\u2019s our everyday frustration.\u00a0
Not like that.\u00a0
Not enough.\u00a0
Too slow.\u00a0
Too cold.\u00a0
Too far.\u00a0
Over the mountain and across the river.\u00a0
<\/strong>
80%\u00a0of our daily arguments,\u00a0
complaints,\u00a0
sadness,\u00a0
and anger\u00a0
come from the same repeating\u00a0
unattended wounds.\u00a0
We express them as adults – resentfully –
because someone forgot\u00a0
to buy us chocolate at the store.
Aha! Gotcha.\u00a0
So I don\u2019t matter again.\u00a0
I\u2019m not worth remembering.\u00a0
I\u2019m not worthy of attention.\u00a0
We collect every little thing that confirms\u00a0
what that little girl\u00a0
or boy inside\u00a0
always believed was true.\u00a0
We walk around\u00a0
hungry and angry for attention.\u00a0
But our partner, our friend\u2026\u00a0
they\u2019re not our mom or dad.\u00a0
And our mom and dad\u00a0
won\u2019t be giving us that now.\u00a0<\/strong>

So what do I do with this hunger?\u00a0
Where do I put this ache?<\/strong>
I learn – day by day –<\/strong>
to give myself that attention.<\/strong>
See \u2013 Stop \u2013 Change
<\/strong>
Aaaaah!\u00a0
(not to your partner anymore – but inwardly, to yourself)\u00a0
There you are!\u00a0
That\u2019s where you were hiding.\u00a0
I\u2019ll buy you that chocolate.\u00a0
I\u2019ll buy it for you,\u00a0
and we\u2019ll eat it together under a tree.\u00a0
Take yourself – in real life,\u00a0
or even just in thought and heart.\u00a0
Take that little child as your grown-up self.\u00a0
You – the one who,\u00a0
from today on,\u00a0
will notice and care for yourself.\u00a0<\/strong>

Hug that Little Child\u00a0
as absurd as it may sound the first time.\u00a0
But you\u2019ll feel it.\u00a0
There\u2019s no way you won\u2019t.\u00a0
If you truly do it,\u00a0
you\u2019ll feel your own tears.\u00a0
Tears you\u2019ve never let yourself cry.\u00a0
Because you had to be brave.\u00a0
Because you had to hold it together.\u00a0
Because you had to survive.<\/strong>

\u2026wait, what was that argument even about?
Chocolate??
No.\u00a0<\/strong>

It was never about the chocolate.\u00a0
It was about sadness.\u00a0
It was about loneliness.\u00a0
It was about helplessness.\u00a0
It\u2019s rarely ever about the little things.\u00a0
That\u2019s why it\u2019s worth diving inward.\u00a0
To give yourself back the right\u00a0
to be who you are.\u00a0
To give yourself back the right\u00a0
to discover yourself anew.\u00a0
To give yourself back the right\u00a0
to understand your own reactions.\u00a0
So you can release them\u00a0
and write new stories,\u00a0
new beliefs about yourself.\u00a0
I am worthy of that chocolate,
because I am worthy of everything.
I am worthy\u00a0
of being someone\u2019s most important person.\u00a0
And when someone just forgets to buy it,\u00a0
you\u2019ll simply say,\u00a0
\u201cIt\u2019s okay.\u00a0
I can buy it for myself.\u201d\u00a0<\/strong>

That\u2019s the difference.\u00a0
That\u2019s where your responsibility begins
for yourself,\u00a0
for your life,\u00a0
for your reactions,\u00a0
for your beliefs,\u00a0
the ones that either build you\u00a0
or break you.<\/strong>

Now, you begin to choose.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

See \u2013 Stop – Change<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Emotions.<\/strong>
Such a big topic.<\/strong>
Learn to manage yourself.<\/strong>
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