{"id":7128,"date":"2026-03-01T12:52:47","date_gmt":"2026-03-01T11:52:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/?p=7128"},"modified":"2026-03-01T12:52:59","modified_gmt":"2026-03-01T11:52:59","slug":"sometimes-i-follow-my-child","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/sometimes-i-follow-my-child","title":{"rendered":"Sometimes I follow my Child."},"content":{"rendered":"\n

More often, the work isn\u2019t in him or with him.<\/strong>
The work is mine to do.<\/strong>
The work is about me.<\/strong>
He responds to my changes.<\/strong>
Otherwise, I fight with him and with myself.<\/strong>
Otherwise, the turbulence launches me straight into the cosmos.<\/strong>
And yes \u2014 I have those moments too \ud83d\ude42<\/strong>

A child shows us the way every day.<\/strong>
It\u2019s my task to be attentive enough <\/strong>
to notice what is happening <\/strong>
and how to respond.<\/strong>
We get irritated with our children<\/strong>
“Could you just stop?!” <\/em><\/strong>
“Could you be quiet already?<\/em>”\u00a0\ud83d\ude42<\/strong>

He could. He will.<\/strong>
When you do your work.<\/strong>
Who is the Adult here?<\/strong>
Who is learning how to live <\/strong>
on this earth longer?<\/strong>
He won\u2019t help you.<\/strong>
But you can help him.<\/strong>
The more I grow<\/strong>
\u2013<\/strong><\/strong> the more I give my child.<\/strong>
The more peace there is within me<\/strong>
\u2013<\/strong><\/strong> the more peace I give him.<\/strong>

The direction is not from the Child to me.<\/strong>
The direction is from me to the Child.<\/strong>

He shows the Way.<\/strong>
I figure out how to walk it.<\/strong>
And when I don\u2019t know how?<\/strong>
Sometimes \u2014 and even often \u2014 <\/strong>
I don\u2019t know.<\/strong>
It is new. It is difficult.<\/strong>
I learn, I search, I test, <\/strong>
I experiment in real life to see <\/strong>
what works for us.<\/strong>
It is a process.<\/strong>

And this process also begins <\/strong>
with the Parents.<\/strong>
Never the other way around.<\/strong>
Children don’t know <\/strong>
how to manage themselves.<\/strong>
Isn\u2019t it funny <\/strong>
that we expect this from them?<\/strong>
And can we do it ourselves?<\/strong>
So I wish for myself and for others <\/strong>
a little looseness in the suspenders\u2026<\/strong>
and laughter in helplessness.<\/strong>

If my child remembers <\/strong>
a little more of this helpless laughter<\/strong>
than shouting,<\/strong>
he will probably be just fine.<\/strong>
What I give <\/strong>
\u2014 he will give to his children.<\/strong>

And maybe it is better<\/strong>
if he passes on that smile.<\/strong>
Even if it is helpless.<\/strong>

When everything inside me <\/strong>
is shaking and I still don\u2019t know<\/strong>
how to handle it<\/strong>
\u2013<\/strong><\/strong><\/strong> the only thing I look for<\/strong>
is my own Peace.<\/strong>

Only in my peace can I breathe<\/strong>
and create space <\/strong>
for new situations,<\/strong>
different solutions,<\/strong>
and a distance<\/strong>
that keeps me from launching myself<\/strong>
out of the orbit of this planet again \ud83d\ude42<\/strong>

At least this way, <\/strong>
I spare myself <\/strong>
the guilt<\/strong> of shouting louder <\/strong>
than my child..<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"More often, the work isn\u2019t in him or with him. The work is mine to do. The work…\n","protected":false},"author":244696633,"featured_media":7117,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_crdt_document":"","advanced_seo_description":"","jetpack_seo_html_title":"","jetpack_seo_noindex":false,"csco_display_header_overlay":false,"csco_disable_site_padding":false,"csco_singular_sidebar":"","csco_page_header_type":"","csco_page_load_nextpost":"","csco_post_video_location":[],"csco_post_video_location_hash":"","csco_post_video_url":"","csco_post_video_bg_start_time":0,"csco_post_video_bg_end_time":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1610,1557,1584],"tags":[1986,1612,1975,2039,2036,2037,2038,2161,2160,2162,1954,1576],"class_list":{"0":"post-7128","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-emotions-signposts","8":"category-motherhood","9":"category-relation","10":"tag-change-begins-today","11":"tag-emotions-are-signposts","12":"tag-i-am-the-change","13":"tag-i-choose-my-behavior","14":"tag-i-choose-my-emotions","15":"tag-i-choose-my-interpretations","16":"tag-i-choose-my-reactions","17":"tag-ja-wybieram-moje-interpretacje","18":"tag-ja-wybieram-moje-reakcje","19":"tag-ja-wybieram-moje-zachowanie","20":"tag-me-and-my-child","21":"tag-my-way","22":"cs-entry","23":"cs-video-wrap"},"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/sandrasinger.blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/3DFAE3BF-EBB5-423A-A986-4D4AA310911F_1_105_c.jpeg?fit=1024%2C768&ssl=1","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/pfugTc-1QY","jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7128","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/244696633"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=7128"}],"version-history":[{"count":6,"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7128\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":7144,"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7128\/revisions\/7144"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/7117"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=7128"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=7128"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=7128"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}