{"id":8027,"date":"2026-08-09T12:22:09","date_gmt":"2026-08-09T10:22:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/?p=8027"},"modified":"2026-08-09T12:26:39","modified_gmt":"2026-08-09T10:26:39","slug":"anger-takes-a-completely-different-path-than-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/anger-takes-a-completely-different-path-than-love","title":{"rendered":"Anger takes a completely different path than Love."},"content":{"rendered":"\n

– Part 1 \u2013 I\u2019m Learning to Regulate Myself – <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we feel angry, we want to smack someone.
So they can feel it.
So they\u2019ll listen. \ud83d\ude42<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sound familiar?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I regulate my anger on my own first
\u2013 by screaming it out
\u2013 by talking it out (very important: <\/strong>
not to be confused with winding myself up… \ud83d\ude42 )
\u2013 by running it out
\u2013 by sorting it out within myself first<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

What remains are the facts.
Something hurts me.
There is a reason.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

That\u2019s why I need regulation.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that, overwhelmed by emotions,
I don\u2019t create a shitstorm.
So that despite our differences,
I can stay true to what I feel is hurting me.
So that I can preserve as much peace as possible in my home
and bring up only what is keeping me from moving forward.
This isn\u2019t everything.
This isn\u2019t the end.
But this one point matters
if we want to keep moving forward
and continue creating together.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the storm clouds gather,
it\u2019s hard to maintain that peace.
Our triggered Emotions want to take charge of us.
That\u2019s why I need my silence.
That\u2019s why I need to go out on my own
or scream the issue out.
Because I am the one who needs to manage
my triggered Emotions.
Not the other way around.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

That\u2019s when the real school begins for me
and when I get to train my character in life.
When everything is shaking <\/strong>
\u2013 to still hold on to the relationship.
When it hurts <\/strong>
\u2013 how do I say it
so that we can actually deal with the issue
instead of starting World War III?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cSay it with humility?\u201d
Ha! \ud83d\ude42
Yes.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because the same thing is happening
on the other side.
From a completely different perspective.
To Hear \u2013 and to be Heard.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

And then different solutions appear.
And then a completely different quality emerges.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"– Part 1 \u2013 I\u2019m Learning to Regulate Myself –  When we feel angry, we want to smack someone.So they…\n","protected":false},"author":244696633,"featured_media":8011,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"advanced_seo_description":"","jetpack_seo_html_title":"","jetpack_seo_noindex":false,"jetpack_seo_schema_type":"","_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_wpcom_ai_launchpad_first_post":false,"csco_display_header_overlay":false,"csco_disable_site_padding":false,"csco_singular_sidebar":"","csco_page_header_type":"","csco_page_load_nextpost":"","csco_post_video_location":[],"csco_post_video_location_hash":"","csco_post_video_url":"","csco_post_video_bg_start_time":0,"csco_post_video_bg_end_time":0,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[1610,1827,1584],"tags":[1612,1975,2040,2039,2036,2037,2038,1763,1617,2161,2160,2162,1618,1576,1575,1574,1974,1856],"class_list":["post-8027","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-emotions-signposts","category-own-work","category-relation","tag-emotions-are-signposts","tag-i-am-the-change","tag-i-choose-light-or-darkness","tag-i-choose-my-behavior","tag-i-choose-my-emotions","tag-i-choose-my-interpretations","tag-i-choose-my-reactions","tag-i-create-my-life","tag-inspiration","tag-ja-wybieram-moje-interpretacje","tag-ja-wybieram-moje-reakcje","tag-ja-wybieram-moje-zachowanie","tag-life-is-beautiful","tag-my-way","tag-personal-development","tag-self-awareness","tag-the-power-is-within-you","tag-together-we-build-our-world","cs-entry","cs-video-wrap"],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/pfugTc-25t","jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/sandrasinger.blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/IMG_2608.jpeg?fit=4032%2C3024&ssl=1","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8027","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/244696633"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=8027"}],"version-history":[{"count":6,"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8027\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":8047,"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8027\/revisions\/8047"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/8011"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=8027"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=8027"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=8027"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}