{"id":8093,"date":"2026-08-23T17:48:47","date_gmt":"2026-08-23T15:48:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/?p=8093"},"modified":"2026-08-23T17:49:19","modified_gmt":"2026-08-23T15:49:19","slug":"not-responding-to-provocation-is-hard","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/not-responding-to-provocation-is-hard","title":{"rendered":"Not Responding to Provocation Is Hard."},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Part 3 \u2013 I\u2019m Learning Not to Transfer My Emotions <\/strong>
and Not to Mirror Other People\u2019s<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Not responding to unkindness with unkindness
is hard.
Not giving back the same thing when it hurts us
is hard.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThat\u2019s unfair!\u201d
It\u2019s training.
The best training in the world.
Yes, it\u2019s hard.
But You can do it.
You\u2019ll learn.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Not responding to anger with anger.
Not responding to sadness with sadness.
Not responding to resentment with resentment.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Now that is a real challenge.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

To separate it within myself, <\/strong>
in the present moment:
\u2013 is this mine?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

We react like mirrors to each other\u2019s emotions.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

As if having our own wasn\u2019t enough,
we react to other people\u2019s too.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Madness. \ud83d\ude42<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

See \u2013 Stop \u2013 Change<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

In difficult conversations.
In everyday communication.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

In stopping the emotional mirroring,
however and wherever it happens.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Emotions that we manage
are our strength.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Emotions that no one manages
are a sandstorm.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

They cover everything that matters <\/strong>
\u2013 remember?\u2026 just 3 sentences.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Emotions that two people don\u2019t manage
become a disaster.<\/strong>
For the home,
for the relationship,
for everything we are trying to build.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

How much easier it could become
if we started learning this
from ourselves.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Emotions are important,
but they don\u2019t have to direct my behavior.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Emotions are important as my Signposts,
as important information,
but they don\u2019t know how to build my relationships.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Not responding to anger with anger.
Not responding to sadness with sadness.
Not responding to resentment with resentment.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Now that is a real challenge.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

To separate it within myself, in the present moment:
\u2013 is this mine?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

We react like mirrors to each other\u2019s emotions.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

As if having our own wasn\u2019t enough,
we react to other people\u2019s too.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Madness. \ud83d\ude42<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

See \u2013 Stop \u2013 Change<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

In difficult conversations.
In everyday communication.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

In stopping the emotional mirroring,
however and wherever it happens.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Emotions that we manage
are our strength.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Emotions that no one manages
are a sandstorm.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

They cover everything that matters \u2013 remember?\u2026 just 3 sentences.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Emotions that two people don\u2019t manage
become a disaster.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

For the home,
for the relationship,
for everything we are trying to build.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

How much easier it could become
if we started learning this
from ourselves.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Emotions are important,
but they don\u2019t have to direct my behavior.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Emotions are important as my Signposts,
as important information,
but they don\u2019t know how to build my relationships.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Part 3 \u2013 I\u2019m Learning Not to Transfer My Emotions and Not to Mirror Other People\u2019s. Not responding…\n","protected":false},"author":244696633,"featured_media":8088,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"advanced_seo_description":"","jetpack_seo_html_title":"","jetpack_seo_noindex":false,"jetpack_seo_schema_type":"","_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_wpcom_ai_launchpad_first_post":false,"csco_display_header_overlay":false,"csco_disable_site_padding":false,"csco_singular_sidebar":"","csco_page_header_type":"","csco_page_load_nextpost":"","csco_post_video_location":[],"csco_post_video_location_hash":"","csco_post_video_url":"","csco_post_video_bg_start_time":0,"csco_post_video_bg_end_time":0,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[1610,1643,1584],"tags":[1612,2268,1975,2040,2039,2036,2037,2038,1618,1576,1856],"class_list":["post-8093","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-emotions-signposts","category-others-various","category-relation","tag-emotions-are-signposts","tag-i-am-not-alone-","tag-i-am-the-change","tag-i-choose-light-or-darkness","tag-i-choose-my-behavior","tag-i-choose-my-emotions","tag-i-choose-my-interpretations","tag-i-choose-my-reactions","tag-life-is-beautiful","tag-my-way","tag-together-we-build-our-world","cs-entry","cs-video-wrap"],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/pfugTc-26x","jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/sandrasinger.blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/IMG_3955.jpeg?fit=5712%2C4284&ssl=1","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8093","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/244696633"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=8093"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8093\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":8103,"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8093\/revisions\/8103"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/8088"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=8093"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=8093"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sandrasinger.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=8093"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}