Sometimes It Just Can’t Be Done.

Sometimes you have to let go. 
Sometimes something is simply beyond our control. 
We want it so badly. 
We tense up inside. 
We do the work for ourselves and for someone else. 
Only then… 
it’s no longer a healthy relationship. 

Sometimes it just can’t be done. 
Sometimes you have to let go. 
I can’t force anyone. 
And when I really think about it — would I even want to? 
I can’t persuade someone, “fix” them, change them, convince them… 
All these things we do can come, for example, from fear —
from being afraid that on my own, without this person, I won’t be able to cope.

Sure, we’ll manage 💪 
But then… I allow my boundaries to be crossed 
— for the safety I know and for peace.
But then I allow myself to be disrespected 
— for the safety I know and for peace. 
But then I freeze myself again so I don’t have to feel anything… 
— for the safety I know and for peace. 

Sometimes it just can’t be done. 
Sometimes you have to let go. 
Sometimes something is simply beyond our control. 

Breathe. 
Try setting your first boundaries. 
Take your own steps 
— towards a kind of safety that will protect you 
and a kind of peace that won’t be about surviving, 
but about living. 

Living with room to breathe. 
Living with a smile. 
Living with Someone who, when they look at you, 
— will truly See You. 

Sometimes it is only our own change 
that others will follow. 
But sometimes they won’t. 

And sometimes it is only our own change 
that allows me to reclaim myself 
— piece by piece.