Once I SEE, everything begins to shift.
It’s a bit like theatre.
You’re watching your own life
from the distance of an observer.
You watch, just to watch.
You’re learning
not to react reactively.
…I know 🙂
That’s Step 2.
I see, and… I don’t react.
We all know this one.
An argument with your partner 🙂
Both of you got emotionally triggered,
your red buttons pressed.
Everyone’s got their own reasons.
Everyone’s burning with their misunderstood emotions.
Aaaaaaaaaa!
War 🙂
And then comes the line, the perfect comeback.
Your king of arguments.
But you know if you say it out loud,
you’ll both explode your fight onto another planet.
And you know you shouldn’t say it,
if you care about not escalating things.
“Shut up…”
You whisper to yourself inside.
And…
Aaaa fuck it.
I just had to say it.
And off I go…
And in a moment, both of you are flying.
Even though deep down you know,
there was probably that one moment
when it could’ve been stopped.
When silence was needed.
When you start observing your life,
there comes a moment
when you see those exact moments.
Yep. That was it.
You didn’t manage to stop it this time
but wow.
I noticed it!
That’s the first Success.
To See.
Now for the next 100 times
you’ll just keep noticing.
Those moments.
Until the 101st time
you’ll manage to Stop.
You won’t do what you’ve always done.
You won’t react like always.
Yep. Again.
And that inner feeling of pride?
Wow.
I stopped…
Wow.
I held back…
And the fight changed direction.
Because I changed the direction.
Because first inside
and then outside
our world begins to change.
That’s the second Success.
To Stop.
To stop doing what you’ve always done.
To stop reacting on autopilot.
To stop running in the hamster wheel.
To make space for something new.
